Firstly, congratulation if you are pregnant when you read this post. There are a lot of important things you need to plan for having baby. But from my experience during pregnancy and after birth, I think there are 4 things you must have in your plan before becoming a Mum.
- Health. With a good plan for your health before you are getting pregnant, it will be a bonus later. We are talking about making a baby and growing a human being later, so a Mum needs to be very healthy. Stay healthy pre and during pregnancy giving you a good chance to have a healthy baby, quick recovery after birth and good endurance to look after kid during motherhood.
- Knowledge about Motherhood. It’s never too much when you learn something else, especially when you are becoming a Mum. That includes diet during pregnancy, breastfeeding, first solid foods for baby etc., even sex after birth and contraception.
- Finance. Having baby costs a lot more than you thought. I would say you would need to have a lump sum of money for all expenses for at least 1 year without working. If your family can live on one income and you decide to be a stay-at-home-mum later, it will benefit a lot for your kid. The first 5 years are very important to growing a kid, so if you have good savings it can give you a good choice to look after your kid by yourself and you only concentrate on that job, not worries about financial conditions.
- Supportive partner. Yes, your husband is a lovely man, he loves you very much, he looks after you from a very small things etc.… (That’s why you married him not the ex-boyfriend). But you still need something more than love, that’s the support. If your partner is not ready to be a father or he doesn’t have a clear answer about that, please don’t take the job yourself. Becoming a Mum is a big and hardest job in the world. It needs a lot of share, love, sympathies and supports from your very closest person – your partner.
I hope this post gives you some helpful idea and you will have a better plan for having kids. I wish all the best to you and mother-to-be.
P/S: This post only a preference for couples who plan to have kid. Other specific cases are not compatible with this. I only discuss what I am thinking about motherhood’s journey and it’s always good when you learn from other’s experiences, especially when you are going in the same road.
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